While burning the midnight oil, she felt an empty emotion,
that something was missing in her life,
something that she was craving for,
something that will promise to be a source of joy to her.
She was in a dilemma!
What is she supposed to do in the present moment?
A thing of happiness or what is expected from her?
It was difficult to decide.
She felt peace with just herself,
She didn’t wish for any company.
After hours of walking and contemplation in the stillness of night
She felt peaceful, but it was short-lived.
She had to come back into the chaotic world.
She left a part of her soul behind,
and continued to battle her cravings
to fulfill an impossible desire.
She was standing alone,
under the dark sky and
under the light of twinkling stars
talking to the moon,
which showered all its elements
She felt enlightened,
amidst the stillness of night.
The sky seemed infinite to her,
that made her dream like a bird.
She wished to have wings,
to experience a boundless joy.
She was standing alone,
listening to the cricketing sound
of night insects,
feeling the soothing effect of the wind.
She felt being loved,
feeling the peace in the infinite universe.
Her heart felt an expansion,
and her mind was in a dovish state.
She felt connected to herself,
that made her felt complete,
contented and happy.
Travelling in delhi metro is a daily affair for me. I am a loner, so i usually read or listen to music while travelling. Watching people and listening to their conversations does not interest me at all, but the exodus at Rajiv Chowk and Kashmere gate prevents me from doing either of two because all my effort goes in balancing myself as everyone is literally hanging in the air. Just two days ago i was going to Connaught place. I saw a blind man standing behind me who was trying to find out his way in the middle of the crowd to exit from the door. I held his hand and accompanied him towards the exit. Then i asked him “Sir, do you need any other help”? He replied, “It will be extremely helpful of you if you could take me till gate no.7”.I willingly said “yes” and accompanied him to walk up the escalators. He asked me “what do you do”? I told him everything and then quickly asked him that “Sir, are you a teacher?” He relied, “Yes!How do you know?” I said that “Sir, teachers have that aura in them! And most of the times, my surmises about certain things come out to be true.” It made him laugh. Then he said that “i love to interact with people and discuss literature and psycology stuff, unlike lawyers and government officers who save all the energy for their counterparts.” Then we both started laughing. Oooh! He happened to be a literature teacher. I wish i could extend the conversation for some more time, but that was it. Before leaving he said that “Nice to meet you Akshita, god bless you!” I replied ” Nice to meet you too sir, go safely.” Then i blocked my ears with headphones and kept walking till the Oxford Book Store.
It has been a long time since i felt like writing. Life has started expecting so much from me. May be the time has arrived to become more career-oriented. This is a new phase in which i have entered. College is about to end and i will be a graduate in next two months and i literally can’t believe this. It feels like college just started and it ended. TIME RUNS SO FAST! phew! Presently, everyone is busy preparing for their entrances, trying this and that to fix themselves in a good secure position of their career goal. Everyday i have endless discussions with my friends about ‘what after graduation’. I could see their worrisome faces, the fear of uncertainty, fear of coming upto their parents expectations. To sum it up, we have this fear of FAILURE running inside our minds. But, do we realise that when we were little and learning to walk, our parents encouraged our every bit of improvement we made. We eagerly tried to do better and better. We should have the same attitude throughout our lives. Why to make it hard to learn by telling ourselves that we are not good enough to do this, what might happen if it turns out to be a ‘failure’? From all the experiences that life has given me, i have now learnt these “success” affirmations:
Divine intelligence gives me all the ideas i can use.
Everything i touch is a success.
There is plenty for everyone, including me.
I establish a new awareness of success.
I move into the winning circle.
I am blessed beyond my fondest dreams.
Golden opportunities are everywhere for me.
When we allow these ideas to fill our consciousness, the opportunities will start coming our way and we will no longer fear about the failure. Our pathway will lead to ever greater successes.
Our life is loaded with infinite number of problems. Everyday we face some or the other problem whether it is related to our personal or professional lives. What i have personally observed about myself is that i often tend to linger about the problems i face which in one or the other way affect me. I was never able to find an effective solution for that particular problem easily. I have many friends who also fail to deal with problematic situations in their lives. I got to know about the problem solving strategy during my summer course which came out to be very helpful for me. All we need to do to solve a problem is to analyse that particular situation and find out effective solution for it. It must be sounding very easy, right? But it is not so! We need to think optimistically to solve it. At times, we make wrong decisions for a particular problem which make us dolorous because we didn’t think effectively about it. Let us know understand the seven steps of problem solving:
1) Identify the problem– How many of us actually know what the problem is with crystal clearity? Honestly, i have a habit of mixing up many problems and finally letting myself into trouble. The very first crucial thing is to identify what we are going through and not to immerse it with other things.
2)Select realistic goals- This is something where we all lag behind. We all lack pragmatic thinking abilities. We tend to think negatively about it and don’t realise that what can be achieved from that problem. So, from now onwards we all should definitely try thinking and making ideas out of that problem.
3)Explore options- This is quite easy to do. We should look for options. Options could be anything. For example:-Share the problem with your friends, they might come up with a good idea ; think about it in your own way- what will happen if i do that or let me try that thing out, who knows it might work! Some people cry when they feel upst about it. Crying is a good exercise at times. It lets your emotions flow easily and makes you feel light. After crying, i am able to think more effectively.
4)Consider consequences- It is very important that in order to make a particular decision about a problem, we consider its consequences. This will help you make right decision.
5) Make decision- Remember, that if you you have properly followed the above four steps, only then you’ll be able to make appropriate decision.
6) Take action- After finally analysing and coming to a decision, implement it. Respond appropriately.
7) Evaluate- Evaluation is extremely important to make ourselves realise and learn a lesson from it. Were we able to cope up with it? Did we make right decision about it? Are we contented the way we dealt with it? Most importantly, are we happy for the decision that we made?
Personally speaking, i never ever even realised that following these steps would make problem solving so easier. Just the way we think about the problem solving questions in mathematics, we need to think in the same way in our lives also. A question can be solved using various formulas but you should be diligent enough to apply the one which solves it in few seconds and gives correct answer. These are some very important things that go ignorant because we never think about them. I hope that these steps will help each one of us in dealing with our life problems everywhere. 🙂
This is not something very big, something that happened unexpectedly or something that i should ramble about. But that small incident gave me contentment and sheer happiness at the cost of nothing. Me and my two other friends went on lunch to Sarvana Bhavan in Connaught Place some few days back. It was scorching heat that day and we all were exhausted. So there we were waiting outside the restaurant for our turn to come. My friends as always kept on cracking lame jokes and discussing about the food of the restaurant which made us forget about the heat. Then all of a sudden a man came begging towards me. He looked weak and old. He was carrying a heavy bag on his shoulder. I immediately took apple from my bag and gave it to him. He touched that apple to his face twice in a criss-cross manner and went away. Me and my friends observed him keenly while he was doing this and one of my friend said that it doesen’t take much to bring a simple smile on the face of someone who is needy. And then all three of us smiled. At that moment i felt euphoric! It was not the first time i gave something to a needy one, but the way he worshipped the apple made me feel that how much important it was to him. He must be in search of something to fill his stomach since very long and that apple could have satisfied his hunger to some extent. The only thing i want to say is that ‘never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts’.
Everyone wants to be happy, yet joy is elusive for most people. One reason is that people tend to expect their happiness to come from big things, like a promotion at work or a sizzling new romance. To have a truly happy, peaceful existence, however, it is necessary to find happiness in little things. Life is made up of little things, so enjoying them for all their worth is bound to make for a more pleasant life. I have often pondered over the things that i don’t have, sometimes i wish to have them and sometimes i feel contented for everything that i have. How many of us are satisfied and happy with whatever we have in our lives with us ? And how many of us are dissatisfied and unhappy? I have come across many people in my life who possess the latter one, i.e, most of them are dissatisfied with their possessions. I have seen people craving for money and big expensive luxuries even though they have enough of them. Does so much of discontentment hold good for any of us? I would like to give an example here: One day i asked my house maid that where does she live, she answered “beti ham jhuggi main rehte hain”, and after her reply various thoughts stuck my mind. I didn’t ask the question deliberately, i just wanted to know. And the expression of her face was so lively, she seemed to be happy living over there. Then i compared similar thing with mine. I imagined one of my ‘rich’ friend asking the same question to me. I would have felt shy in telling so , i would have thought that OH! What would she think about me? She lives in a big bunglow with beautiful wall painting adoring her house, beautiful garden, a swimming pool and so many other things and i live in a simple three story home devoid of such luxuries. All such things seem to be fascinating, dreaming but the reality is different. I would like to quote words of Ratan Tata ( A BILLIONAIRE!) that i found very fascinating and meaningful:
“If you want to walk fast,
But -if you want to walk far, walk together.
How strange it is:
We wish to wear high brands
but we feel most comfortable in pyjamas.
We wish to sit in Taj and Marriot with elite people,
but we enjoy roadside tea with friends and people we love.
We wish to own big cars and go on long drives,
yet we talk our heart out only while walking down a long road.
We have 64 GB iPods filled with songs
but sometimes a song on the radio brings a smile that can’t be compared.”
If you could have your big dream, what would you gain from it? For instance, if your dream is to have a lot of money, what would that money do for you? It would buy comforts for one thing. It would provide the type of food you enjoy and comfortable furnishings. But what about right now? Do you get food you enjoy? Do you have soft pillows, furniture that comfort you? Then you already have most of what you really want. Try finding out happiness with all those things that you have in your life at the moment. This moment is as good a time as any to begin doing what matters most. Start exactly where you are right now. Do what you can with what you have right now. Stop over-thinking and start DOING. Embrace your humanness and enjoy the process of learning and growing as you go. 🙂